My sister-in-law is a flirt
I am 27 years old and working in a bank. I have been reading your column since my high school days, and I still find ‘Trust Us’ very interesting. I am engaged and going to be married next year. Guru, my problem is related to my fiancée’s sister, F, who is 20 years old. No doubt she is an attractive girl, but the way she tries to get my attention really embarrasses me. Had I not been engaged to her sister, I would have thought about her but now F is going to be my sister-in-law and I really respect her. My fiancée, B, is a very simple girl and she loves me a lot. She is clueless about her sweet sister trying to flirt with her fiancé. F is very bold; she has even invited me to go on a date with her. I have clearly refused her, but I don’t understand what she wants. What kind of sister is she? I am afraid she may create problems for me in future. I am sincere with B and I don’t want to hurt her. I am really confused. Should I tell B about F, or should I just ignore her? I don’t know what to do. Please help.
Dear Smart Guy,
You are engaged; you are happy, so there shouldn’t be any confusion. F is an immature girl; she has no idea that her irresponsible behaviour may create serious problems for her sister. You never know but she might have been joking when she asked you to go on a date. Maybe she was just testing you. You shouldn’t take her seriously. I don’t think she has any bad intentions; and if her frankness bothers you then you can always maintain a fair distance inconspicuously. You are a mature person and you should try to handle this situation tactfully. And yes, before any misunderstanding arises between you and B, it’s better to take B in confidence and tell her in a light manner about F’s mischievousness. I am sure B, being a sensible girl, will take it easy and will be able to deal with this whole issue wisely. Good luck!
My life has come to a standstill
I am a 22-year-old newlywed. I got married in February this year. Mine was an elaborate wedding. My father is a rich businessman, so he spent lavishly on my wedding. I was a young, happy bride but soon after I got married, Covid 19 came and it smashed my plans of going on a honeymoon and a trip to Europe this summer. I was hopeful that this epidemic would be over soon, but it’s been more than four months now and there are still no signs of life going back to normalcy. Like most people, I have no choice but to stay at home. My husband has his own business so he has to take care of that while I have to spend most of my time with my in-laws. They are not bad people and they try to keep me engaged but, Guru, I am bored now. I can’t go out for shopping or eating. All the restaurants are closed. Even watching Netflix is not fun anymore. Nothing is happening. All my new clothes are hanging in the closet, as there is nowhere to go. I really don’t know what to do. I am going crazy. Please help.
Dear Angry Bride,
Relax, my dear. It’s just a temporary phase and it shall pass soon. I know it must be frustrating for you that you cannot go anywhere because of the extraordinary circumstances but then that’s life. God has given humans capacity to adjust in any given situation. Think of those who have no roof over their head, nothing to eat and no regular income! Llife is tough for them as they are facing serious challenges. You, on the other hand, have a good life. If you are bored, try to engage yourself in some constructive activity. Try to help your mom-in-law in the kitchen. Even if you have a cook at home, make it a point to try some new dish every now and then. These are your early days of marriage; try to build good a rapport with your in-laws. Hey, don’t fret if there are no invitations; you can still have fun. For instance, go on a long drive with your hubby and enjoy his company. Play indoor games, have tea/coffee together and last but not least, read a good book to nourish your mind. Good luck!
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